We’re being offered comfort in digital form, and many of us are quietly accepting it.
It’s subtle, almost seductive. The more we engage, the more it feels like connection — until we pause and realize what’s missing.
Three moments brought me to write this article.
The first was a devastating story about a young man who died by suicide after prolonged conversations with AI. Instead of offering hope or challenge, the AI agreed with him on everything — mirroring his despair, reinforcing his darkest thoughts, and even supporting his idea of ending his life. It reminded me that no algorithm can hold space for a soul in crisis. Full agreement is not support.
The second was a commercial that disturbed me deeply — a plush AI toy, not marketed for children’s play but for adults seeking emotional support. It was framed as a substitute for therapy, a soft, blinking companion meant to soothe loneliness.
The third was a broader trend I’ve noticed: AI systems that agree with everything we say. They learn patterns of our behavior and preferences and want to please us — to make us feel supported, understood, and aligned, as if we share the same views and values.
I was also inspired by Dr. Arthur Brooks’ insights, which led me to reflect on the emotional boundaries of AI.
He gave a striking example — comparing a real dog with a robotic one. So simple, yet so accurate.
And I thought: there’s no way on Earth you could trick a child with that. When a child longs for a real dog or cat and is handed a robotic version, they might play with it and even enjoy it, but they won’t feel fulfilled. They won’t feel the warmth, the bond, the soul-to-soul connection that only a living being can offer.
And yet, we adults sometimes forget this distinction. Perhaps we want to be tricked, so we trick ourselves.
We allow ourselves to believe that an AI chatbot can be a friend, a therapist, a companion.
But it’s not. AI is not for the heart or the soul. It’s for logic, research, and rational tasks.
It’s a tool — not a relationship.
Let’s walk this line together.

The Illusion of Agreement

In American society, and in many other places around the world, we’re living through a time of deep polarization.
More than ever, people want others to be happy with them — to agree with them.
There’s something deeply satisfying about hearing your own words repeated back, just slightly rephrased. It feels safe, warm, and supportive — and that’s completely understandable.
We’re all searching for like-minded people, for emotional resonance, for someone who reflects our truth.
And this is where technology plays a very tricky game with us. AI learns our preferences — what we like, what we dislike, how we react. It adapts to please us. It won’t argue, upset, or challenge us. It says what we want to hear — no matter if we’re right or wrong, kind or unfair.
It echoes our views, offers encouragement, and makes us feel understood.
But what it really does is repeat our thoughts in new words, creating a false sense of unity and solidarity.
That can feel comforting — especially when we’re hurt or in conflict with someone close.
Yet we must remember: AI can agree with you on everything and still leave you lonely.
It doesn’t solve conflict, offer honesty, or show true compassion. It only mirrors what’s already inside us.
In real human relationships, we feel true energy exchange — heart to heart, soul to soul.
Loving a robotic cat or toy dog that responds to commands is not the same as loving a real animal with moods, personality, and spirit.
The same goes for people. We grow through empathy, presence, and understanding — not algorithms.
Healthy relationships are never just about me; they’re about us.
I care not only about what I feel, but also about what others experience.
With AI, it’s different. It has no family, feelings, or hardships.
It doesn’t need our love or emotional support.
AI can help us become more aware, but it can also make us less caring and less connected.
Over time, it weakens emotional intelligence and genuine communication.
Artificial empathy isn’t real unity or love.
We must remember that we talk to a computer program, not a living being.
And that’s never enough for the human soul.
On every level — mental, emotional, and spiritual — we need real connection with real people.

Therapy, Coaching, and the Human Touch

Thinking back on everything we’ve talked about, it’s easy to wonder: could AI take the place of a therapist or coach?
After all, when we work with them, we usually don’t know much about their personal lives.
Especially when the relationship doesn’t include a mentorship element, they tend to keep things private.
The focus stays on us, our stories, our growth, our healing.
Sometimes, talking to AI and sharing how our day went, how we felt, can bring a sense of satisfaction.
It can feel like someone listened, like we pulled everything out of ourselves.
If the goal is simply to release emotions, you can talk to AI the same way you talk to running water.
And I don’t mean that as a metaphor.
This is an actual energetic practice: you speak your negative thoughts to the water and imagine them leaving you as the water flows away.
It’s a ritual of release, not a dialogue.
But that’s where AI’s role ends.
Healing trauma, grief, panic attacks, or depression requires much more.
Therapists don’t just listen or teach techniques, they help you track what works, adjust it to your needs, and guide you through emotional terrain with care.
Real therapy requires professional training, years of study, practical experience, and a licensed qualification, for a reason.
Even in a formal relationship, therapy is still a human connection.
A good therapist listens beyond your words, hears tension in your voice, senses your energy or “vibe,” and offers compassion and support that helps you feel safe enough to heal.

A thoughtful specialist may also gently invite you to reflect, perhaps asking how your partner or child felt after something you said, or softly reminding you of the deeper values you hold.
That kind of honest, human presence is something AI cannot replace.
A good coach shares their drive with you and helps you reconnect with your own.
Often, coaching includes a mentorship element, especially when you choose someone with life experience in their field of professional interests — someone who’s navigated major life transitions, especially those related to their niche of coaching work.
The most powerful coaching happens when the coach knows their niche, not just through clients, but through their own path.
That’s why I always recommend choosing someone whose background truly resonates with your journey.
Coaching considers emotional and personal factors, not just logic and data analysis — and that’s what makes it so transformative.
Motivation and inspiration work beautifully at the start of any journey.
But when the hard days come — when you hit walls, lose momentum, or forget your “why” — a coach offers presence, clarity, and emotional steadiness.
They help you reconnect with your values and reclaim your inner strength through mindful, intentional support.
Not with generic cheerleading, but with real, personal connection — one human being truly seeing another.
That’s something AI can’t provide, and it’s not designed to.
We need a path where logic meets light, and heart walks beside us.

Closing Reflection

AI is a powerful tool, and I use it daily — with gratitude. It helps me write across four languages, structure ideas, and save time that used to be spent manually refining. That time now fuels what matters most: creative work, deep thinking, and human connection. But when it comes to soul work — real growth, real healing — only human presence can guide us.
As a spiritual decision-making coach, I specialize in helping people navigate life’s pivotal moments with clarity, emotional intelligence, and strategic insight. Whether you’re facing a transition, seeking deeper alignment, or ready to lead with purpose, I offer a space where logic meets intuition — and transformation begins. If you’re ready to move forward with intention, I’d be honored to walk that path with you.

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